Petting sex

Petting Petting is an old (mid-20th century) term that means stimulating another person's sex organs or breasts – usually with your hand or mouth, and normally while kissing them. By Dr David Delvin, GP and Family Planning Specialist and Christine Webber, Psychotherapist and health writer What is petting? Petting is an old (mid-20th century) term that means stimulating another person's sex organs or breasts – usually with your hand or mouth, and normally while kissing them. Petting actually an American word – originally meaning stroking or caressing (as one would stroke a 'pet' cat). It is more or less the equivalent of the U.S. terms 'necking' and 'making out', both of which originated in the 1940s. ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW There was no equivalent word in 'polite' (British) English, so the US word 'petting' gradually became used worldwide during the late 20th Century and is still employed – particularly by middle-aged people. In fact, the expression 'petting' and 'to pet' have now become a little old-fashioned – so that in the UK it's now much commoner to speak of: 'touching someone up' ‘fingering someone’ 'frigging someone' 'rubbing someone up' 'bringing someone off' (if petting proceeds to climax). All these are still slang expressions, and the only non-slang English expression is 'masturbating someone'. In practice, this phrase is hardly ever used – because of the fact that most people only employ the word 'masturbation' to mean self-stimulation. 'Heavy petting' is an American expression that usually implies petting below the waist – rather than just involving the breasts. Note: in recent years, there has been slight confusion in the UK over an alternative use of the word 'petting' – to mean 'stroking an animal'. Thus, 'petting farms' have been widely established, where amiable, woolly creatures like sheep can be stroked by children. What does human petting involve? The idea of petting is to stimulate your partner's body, in order to give them sexual excitement. Fortunately, this activity is also usually nice for the person who is doing the petting! Petting (love play) very often continues until the partner who's on the receiving end actually climaxes. Bringing someone to a climax by petting is frequently referred to as: 'bringing them off' ‘jerking them off’ 'fetching them off' 'tossing them off' (only used when the recipient is male). Petting is often referred to in older books as 'foreplay' – meaning that it's something you can do before starting intercourse. Doing it before intercourse is actually an excellent idea, because it prepares the body for actual penetration. Indeed, nearly all women need plenty of petting before intercourse - in order to get their genitals 'ready'. To be specific, petting before intercourse will: make the vagina open up make the 'love juices' flow get the woman excited so that she really enjoys intercourse. Failure to give enough petting before intercourse is one of the commonest male mistakes - and very often leads to sex becoming unsatisfactory for the woman. Can you go in for petting without going on to intercourse? Definitely! Plenty of couples – particularly young ones – go in for petting 'sessions' for half-an-hour or an hour, but don't go on and have intercourse. These sessions are particularly useful for young people who need to express their emotions and find sexual relief, but who don't want to progress to intercourse (or perhaps can't progress to intercourse because of their circumstances). What happens when a woman 'pets' a man? She can do any of the following: stroke the man's penis rub his penis kiss his penis lick his penis suck his penis - this is often described as a 'blow job' (but please do not blow – this is dangerous!) use a vibrator on him (though in practice vibrators are much more commonly used by men on women). What happens when a man 'pets' a woman? He can do any of the following: caress her breasts and nipples kiss them lick them suck them stimulate her clitoris, vulva and vagina with his fingers stimulate these areas with his lips or tongue use a vibrator (or other sex aid). Is there any risk of catching STDs or getting HIV? There is an extremely small risk of acquiring infection through petting, but it is much less than with full sex. Statistically, the biggest is of catching herpes, through being given oral sex by someone who has a 'cold sore ' on their lips. There is also a slight risk of catching gonorrhoea ('clap') through oral love play. The danger of catching HIV is believed to be low, but is not zero. There has been at least one case in the USA in which oral petting led to the transfer of the HIV virus. Under no circumstances should you pet with a person who is HIV-positive unless both of you have been given expert counselling about the risks. For a full discussion of the risks of oral sex please see the complete article on this subject. Conclusion Generally, petting is great fun and very safe. Learning to do it skilfully is well worthwhile – especially as skilled love play is essential for helping most women to reach a climax. Other people also read: Exhibitionism means exposing your body for sexual purposes, particularly in a public place. Voyeurism: when voyeurism becomes anti-social? Oral sex: what types are there?